- Stress and anxiety
- Trauma and relationships
- CBT and DBT skills
About Anke
Anke Kalaiah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with 15 years of clinical experience. She works with adults facing stress, anxiety, depression, relationship strain, trauma and parenting challenges. She also supports people dealing with addiction, grief, ADHD, career questions, and issues around intimacy and self‑esteem.
She uses straightforward, practical techniques to help people manage overwhelming emotions and daily pressures. Sessions often focus on skill building for mood regulation, clearer communication, and problem solving so clients can handle work, school, and relationships more effectively. German and English speakers can work with her in either language.
Anke trained in counseling psychology after studying German and social psychology in Germany. She has a background supporting people affected by trauma, domestic and sexual abuse, blended family stress, divorce and coparenting challenges. Her clinical work includes a range of community and outpatient settings across diverse cultural backgrounds.
Her style is eclectic and client-centered. She mixes solution-focused work with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills to address thoughts, behaviors and emotions. Motivational interviewing and mindfulness approaches are used when they fit the client’s goals.
Sessions aim to define clear goals and teach concrete tools you can use between meetings. Anke emphasizes collaboration in deciding what to work on next and adjusts methods to fit circumstances like work or study schedules.
How her approaches are used in online sessions
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on the client’s priorities. The therapist listens, reflects, and helps people set their own goals and pace for change. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) breaks down the link between thoughts, feelings and actions. It teaches practical techniques to reduce anxiety, change unhelpful thinking patterns, and improve daily functioning. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is skills-based work that includes mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation and interpersonal skills to manage strong emotions and improve relationships.Deciding which approach to use is collaborative. The therapist will discuss goals, try methods that match those goals, and adjust the plan based on what helps. Clients and therapist check in together about progress and switch strategies when needed.
Confirm current session formats before booking to know what is offered for this clinician. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions around study or work and reduce travel time. It can also allow for shorter check-ins when schedules are tight or sessions that use audio only if bandwidth is limited. The focus is on practical ways to use therapy skills in everyday life and on finding a setup that fits a young adult’s routine.
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Experience
15+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, German
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she work with most often?
She works with adults on stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and family problems, trauma and abuse, parenting and addictions among other issues.
What is her therapeutic approach like?
She uses an eclectic, client-centered approach combining CBT, DBT, mindfulness, motivational interviewing and solution-focused methods to teach skills and solve problems.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She has 15 years of clinical experience working in a variety of settings with culturally diverse clients.
What are her credentials and where does she practice?
She is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT) and practices in California.
Can I work with her if I don’t speak English?
Sessions are offered in English and German.
Does she see clients outside the United States?
International clients are not currently accepted.
How are sessions billed?
Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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