- Stress and anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Parenting concerns
About Allan
Allan Herem is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with 23 years of experience. He sees adults facing common early-adulthood pressures such as stress, anxiety, relationship strain, low self-esteem, and depression. He also lists parenting concerns among his main focus areas.
Allan approaches conversations in straightforward, practical terms. He helps people talk through relationship problems, communication breakdowns, and issues tied to family of origin. He also addresses feelings of emptiness, guilt, shame, and the impact of abandonment or attachment wounds.
Sessions often look at how patterns from the past affect present choices. Allan helps clients notice recurring behaviors, consider alternatives, and try small changes that fit daily life. He works with concerns like control issues, commitment worries, impulsivity, and the fallout from infidelity or separation.
Fatherhood and caregiver stress are listed among his additional focus areas, including the strains that come with balancing responsibilities and personal needs. He also helps people dealing with forgiveness and repairing damaged connections where possible.
Allan offers services in English. He uses his years of practice to guide conversations toward clearer communication and steadier emotional responses. To begin, readers can follow the site process to see available online therapy options and schedule a first session.
Approaches and how online sessions work
Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to address relationship and mood concerns. One common approach focuses on identifying communication patterns and practicing new ways to speak and listen; this helps with arguments, commitment worries, and recurring misunderstandings. Another approach looks at how early attachment experiences shape current reactions and relationships, helping people understand feelings of abandonment, shame, or emptiness and try different responses.Finding the right approach is collaborative. Allan will review what you bring to sessions, discuss goals, and suggest techniques to try. Together you decide which methods fit your needs and daily life, and you can adjust the plan as you go.
The practical benefits of online work include fitting sessions into a busy schedule and keeping therapy consistent during moves or job changes. Because the biography does not list specific session formats, confirm which formats are offered before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to keep appointments around classes, shifts, or caregiving duties and can reduce travel time so therapy fits more naturally into your week.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Experience
23+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does he focus on?
He works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship struggles, and parenting concerns, plus related issues such as attachment and abandonment.
How does he approach therapy?
He uses direct, practical conversations to identify patterns and try small, achievable changes that fit everyday life.
How much experience does he have?
Allan has 23 years of clinical experience as a practicing therapist in California.
What credential does he hold and where is he located?
He holds the LMFT credential and practices in California.
Can I work with him if I live outside the United States?
He does not accept international clients at this time.
What session formats are offered?
Session formats are not specified in the biography; confirm current session options before booking.
How are sessions paid for?
Cost varies by location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I start a first session?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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